Have An Exit Strategy
ost advice on female seduction focuses on how to move the seduction process forward, but very little of it focuses on when to end an attempted seduction. And that's a very serious omission.
It's useful to think of seduction as an investment on your part. You spend time, some money (perhaps a lot) and some "face" on each seduction attempt. And if you end up in bed, then the "cost" will (sometimes) have been worth it.
“… most guys strike out more often than they score, even if they're very skilled
But not all female seduction attempts succeed. Most guys strike out more often than they score, even if they're very skilled. Why? Sometimes it's chemistry (he just wasn't "her type"). Other times, it's timing (she wasn't in the right frame of mind at that particular moment).
What the stock market
and female seduction
have in common
It's easiest to illustrate the concept by using the stock market as an example. After all, many guys know a thing or two about investing. So here's the typical progression:
- You pick out a stock that looks promising
- You decide on the price to pay for it
- You call your broker (or log on to the broker's website) and place your order
- You sit back and watch the stock's value climb steadily (you hope)
Then what? Most stock market amateurs haven't clearly thought out what they'll do next
- If the price goes up, at what point should they sell the stock?
- If the price goes down, at what point should they sell the stock?
- If the price goes mostly sideways, at what point should they sell the stock?
Far from being just "an afterthought", having an exit plan is perhaps the most important stock market strategy to have in place. And not having one is the reason why so many amateur investors have bought a stock, watched it rise sharply in price
and then rode it all the way back down again.
If it's going up, they keep the stock (in case it goes up more) so as not to "leave any money on the table". If it goes down, they feel stupid for having bought it in the first place (or for not having sold it when it was higher), and so they'll hold on in hopes that it goes back up again.
But whatever it does, it's very hard emotionally for them to pull the trigger and just sell the stock.
For that reason, stock market gurus always counsel investors to have a "sell strategy" going into any investment. And professional investors almost always do establish and follow a "sell strategy" for each investment.
Similar logic applies
to female seduction
Most guys essentially "wing it" here, just as they tend to do in the stock market. They figure out what they'll do first, but then they count on being able to play it by ear as the situation evolves.
As with stock investments, there are also three possible outcomes for each female seduction attempt:
- Things move along swimmingly and an hour later, you and she are in bed together.
- Things proceed disastrously. She tells you loudly that she wouldn't be caught dead with a jerk like you, or she throws a drink in your face, or perhaps she even calls over the bouncers.
- Things seem to be going "okay" (she hasn't said yes but she hasn't said no). However, you seem to mostly treading water and you're not making clear progress.
“… sure, it may embarrass you the first few times it happens
The second scenario is actually the easiest of the three to handle. Sure, it may embarrass you the first few times it happens, but you'll quickly develop thicker skin. And the fastest way to do that is to have a comeback ready. For example, you could chuckle a bit, roll your eyes and say "Is that the best you could come up with?", and then stroll away confidently.
The first scenario is next easiest to handle. The only challenge for you at that point is to avoid over-promising (e.g. that you'll call her the next day if you actually have no intention of doing so) and to then extricate yourself gracefully.
Know when to call it a day with
your female seduction efforts
It's the last scenario which causes inexperienced guys endless trouble. They rationalize that they haven't "officially" failed as long as they keep trying to seduce her (in the same way they can buy a stock at $150, ride it down to $0.25 and insist that "It's not really a loss, because I haven't sold it
it can still come back").
What's more, the more time he spends trying to seduce her and getting nowhere, the more likely he's going to keep trying to get her. Why? Because his investment (time and effort expended) in trying to seduce her continues growing.
Imagine spending 18 months
seducing a woman
and not succeeding
Most guys would feel really stupid at that point for having let themselves get strung along for so long. Therefore they'll enter into a state of denial. They'll tell themselves that she's just shy or she just "isn't ready yet", when in reality it was a lost cause right from the earliest stage.
That's the worst of all possible outcomes (other than getting arrested) in female seduction. It's the closest thing to "emotional quicksand" you're likely to encounter in life. Most young guys go through the experience sooner or later and it's sheer misery.
“… that's the worst of all possible outcomes (other than getting arrested) in female seduction
But why would some women string you along for months on end when they have no intention of putting out for you? Some are unbalanced, some are angry at men for some real or imagined wrongs done by past partners, some are accumulating ego strokes and some are just killing boredom for a while.
But whatever the reasons, you'll suffer if you let the game continue indefinitely this way.
There's an old stock market maxim which recommends: "Take your losses but let your winners run". And that's also excellent advice during female seduction. If you're not getting anywhere, cut your losses. Move on to another woman.
And to avoid getting inadvertently sucked into an endless unsuccessful seduction attempt, it's also an excellent idea to set an absolute cutoff on your commitment.
“… a cutoff of "two seduction attempts" on any one woman might be a good threshold to use
If you're skilled at female seduction, a cutoff of "two seduction attempts" on any one woman might be a good threshold to use. But if you're newer at the female seduction game, it will take you a little longer to figure out how much progress you're making.
Therefore, we suggest a cutoff of no more than three seduction attempts on any one woman before moving on to the next one. Just like in baseball: "Three strikes and you're out!"
Learn more about female seduction and how to improve your own seduction game
on our main Seduction page.