ost seduction tips for men focus on "what to do", which is a necessary part of the process. But too little focus is placed on "what to avoid". And therefore many guys end up spending too much time, money and effort trying to seduce the wrong women.
After all, not all women will be receptive. And those who are receptive will be interested only some of the time and under certain circumstances. Therefore, one of the most important seduction tips for men is to avoid obvious dead ends.
Nothing is "obvious"
What's tricky is that both alternatives look the same: she behaves as if she's disinterested in you.
Therefore, guys who are low in self confidence tend to give themselves the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's just playing hard to get. And since it's so hard for most guys to work up the nerve to hit on a new woman, they'll keep trying with that particular woman (just in case) rather than starting all over again with another one.
Is there really such a thing as a woman "playing hard to get"? Sure, that used to be fairly common before the sexual revolution began in the 1960's. It's much less common today, but the practice underwent a revival starting in 1995 due to a book published that year ("The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right").
Essentially, that book is a guide which teaches women how to play games to manipulate men (ideally into marriage). And that's not an appetizing prospect if you're male.
But it also seems to disappoint many of the women we've seen try the "Rules" strategy it sometimes works to ensnare guys who aren't good catches, but does quite poorly at ensnaring guys who are more confident (and therefore won't put up with being treated like dirt). It catches the wrong guys.
We've also noticed that all the women we've seen play "hard to get" were not interested in those particular guys in the ways they'd truly want. That is to say, these were shy guys who had good incomes and the women had ticking biological clocks -- the guys were viewed as useful financial "beasts of burden" by women who were anxious to get a guy (any guy!) to the altar.
These women didn't feel strongly attracted to their targets as they were primarily viewed as "sperm banks with checkbooks".
However, when a guy came along who actually did turn them on, they dispensed with "hard to get" to avoid letting a "good one" get away.
One of the most useful seduction tips for men, therefore, is that if she's playing hard to get with you, then she's not interested in you. What's more, it makes no difference as to exactly why she's disinterested or how she shows it. It's a waste of your time to even bother trying to find out.
Instead, walk away and try another woman.
We have many more seduction tips for men in our Seduction section on this site.
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